From Stutter to International Speaker: Grabbing Fear by the Balls With Joze Piranian

Joze HeadshotJoze Piranian is a lifelong stutterer on the quest to confront his fears one stage at a time. After spending most of his life avoiding speaking out of the fear of being judged for being “different”, he is now a TEDx speaker, the winner of the Grand Slam competition at inspirational speaking competition Speaker Slam, and a stand-up comedian who’s performed at the Laugh Factory in Chicago, the Broadway Comedy Club in NY, Comedy Nest in Montreal and Absolute Comedy in Toronto. Joze’s mission is to share his tale of overcoming adversity in order to to motivate people to face their deepest fears, overcome their obstacles (their “inner stutter”) and fulfill their potential. Remember, the only way out is through.

Of all of the interview I’ve done in my life, this was the most actionable. As a lifelong stutterer my guest wastes no time with fluff or filler, he dives directly into the heart of comedy 101, overcoming your greatest fears, and what we need to do daily in order to live our potential.

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You Can Be Funny Too

What I appreciated most about Joze’s approach at comedy is it’s simplicity. I didn’t feel overwhelmed or hopeless like I typically do. In fact, I felt encouraged. As if, “hell I can be funny too!”

He shared that his stand up journey began at a intro to stand up class at Second City Toronto. It was there that he learnt that when comedy it’s stripped down to it’s core, it’s all about misdirection. Joze said, “it’s the element of surprise between expectation and reality that creates humour.”

He continued, “humour is a corrective mechanism that detects the discrepancy between the expected and the actual. Laughter is our natural physiological response.”

Although I don’t personally like science, I was excited to learn that Joze believes comedy is nothing more than a scientific model we can follow. Here are his top 3 tips to help get you started immediately:

  1. Make sure what you’re saying is funny in of itself. Joze see’s this first mistake all too often at amateur comedy nights. A first timer will bring there friends to the bar but they are the only people laughing at their jokes! Why is that you ask? Because the audience knows nothing about you. If what you’re saying isn’t funny unless the audience had context into your life and personality, don’t say it. Therefore it’s best to take the position that no one knows anything about who you are and to focus on ensuring what you’re saying is inherently funny.
  2. Think of jokes as a science. When you think of jokes as a set up and a punchline, things get a lot more palatable. Using Joze’s tips from above, it’s important that after we deliver our set up, we don’t just say what’s on everyones mind. Instead, the punchline needs to be a misdirection, or different from what people expected. The secret sauce is in the misdirection.
  3. Address the elephant in the room. Joze encourages us to address what’s on everyones mind immediately. For example, if you’re extremely tall or short, fat or you know your voice sounds different (perhaps you have a stutter), address it and make a few jokes about yourself. Like most of the pleasures of life, comedy is the constant evolution of building and releasing tension. If we give a performance without releasing the tension of the clear elephant in the room, we’ll be leaving our audience behind and the laughter with it.

A Practical Philosophy for Overcoming Obstacles

I asked Joze point blank, “how the hell were you able to overcome what is a seemingly insurmountable challenge and to then rise up and become a TEDx speaker, Grand Slam Champion and International Stand Up Comedian,” to that he answered one single word, “exposure.”

“We as humans,” he said, “we’re notorious for wanting to avoid pain and discomfort.”

He related to a time in University when he asked his professors to exempt him from presentations and group work. Further, another time when he was in his youth where he even avoided his family functions by pretending to be sick.

“But that doesn’t help us move forward,” Joze shared.

To this day, after all of his accomplishments he still needs to force himself weekly to talk to 50 to 100 strangers and ask directions. The second he’s not exposing himself to the things that he fears the most, he feels a shell start to envelop him and everything he’s worked so hard towards. Instead, when we face our fears we literally change the way we frame what used to scare us.

Joze wants to encourage all of us to grab fear by the balls. His stutter is just a metaphor for any fears that’s holding us back. So what’s your stutter? Are you not wearing a bikini to the beach because you think you’re overweight? Are you not asking that cute girl on a date because you think you’ll be rejected? Are you holding onto the job or relationship you hate because you’re selling your value short?

Whatever it is, let Joze’s practical philosophy of overcoming obstacles guide you down this path of growth. As he’s world renown for saying,

“The only way out is through.” – Joze Piranian

Exposure will be your greatest asset if you let it. Sure, short term it may suck. When you’re in the mud the only thing you can do is focus on how dirty you are, how heavy it makes you feel and how much you wish you could go back to the way things were. But long term, everything you’ve ever wanted, success in your relationships, better health, and success in your business and wealth, all will come as a result of consistently stepping into and through the mud. Because the only way out my friends, is through.

Joze’s Do This Directives

  1. Get your butt to second city. If you’re serious about comedy, Joze highly recommends taking the time to invest in learning the fundamentals. Not only is it a great learning experience, but you’ll meet new friends and have a blast in the process.
  2. Join a local toastmasters club. Beyond the 50-100 weekly strangers that Joze asks for directions, he credits a lot of his public speaking success to the hours he’s spent at Toastmasters clubs in Montreal, Lebanon, Mexico City and Toronto (meet us both here!). Repetition is the mother of learning and the more consistently you can get stage time, wether it’s for standup or public speaking, the faster your trajectory to success.
  3. Grab fear by the balls. If you’re reading this blog, you’re indescribably lucky. I mean it. Not to sound cliche on you, but we have it so good. So many advantages, luxuries, and gifts have been handed to us and the least we can do is live a fraction of our potential. I only take the time and energy to write these posts because I want you and I to succeed. And we can, I believe it. But in order to do that and to take advantage of the blessing we have to take even a single breath, to type even a single word or to see and feel light every day we need to overcome fear. Together, let’s lean in, find something that grips us and remember what Joze says, “the only way out is through.”

Audio Time Stamps

  • 00:00 who is Joze Piranian
  • 2:00 Joze telling jokes!
  • 8:00 when did Joze start stand up
  • 15:00 tips to get started in comedy
  • 20:10 Joze’s philosophy for overcoming obstacles
  • 26:40 Joze’s sharing vulnerability
  • 31:21 mentors that have made an impact on his life
  • 37:30 Joze dropping wisdom BOMBS\

Till next time stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “you cannot change the destination of your life overnight but you can change your direction.”

Jonathan Andrews

Out.

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Asking Better Questions and Improving Communications Through Podcasting

Stefan Headshot

Stefan Spinoff is one of what is becoming a virtually endangered species. Someone who’s pursuing a career in the same field of his formal education. After graduating from Journalism school, Stefan embarked on a journey to change the way millennials are labeled through his Podcast, “The Restless Millennial“.

Throughout our discussing we were able to uncover some deeply person truths rarely shared amongst even his closest friends, the benefits of networking and

using LinkedIn as a platform to both share content and meet like minded people and finally the spiritual destruction of comparing yourself to others.

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Mission

It’s my personal hope that each and everyone of us are driven by a burning desire to fulfill their own personal mission. And when I see it manifest in the lives of those around me, it’s clear gravitational pull, it’s impact on individuals work ethic, their demeanour, and most importantly actions, it’s a thing of beauty.

Stefan Spinoff is one of those men. “The Restless Millennial,” he shares, “is an attempt to change the narrative around millennials and give young entrepreneurs the platform to add value to others.”

Our youth have ideas, wisdom and often a contemporary outlook of ways to improve our world. It’s Stefan’s belief that by shifting the label from lazy and entitled to competent and valuable contributors, we’ll begin to see significant progress and hopefully moment towards the future development of youth leadership.

It’s an admirable mission and one that I’m grateful to have been able to work towards and contribute to throughout our conversation together.

Lessons From Great Youth

As a byproduct of running his Podcast, Stefan has had the opportunity to meet and learn from a plethora of successful and ambition Millennials. One in particular is someone I’ve seen develop a considerable following on multiple social platforms, Manu Goswami.

Manu’s a Top 20 Under 20, CEO of Trufan and 2x Tedx Speaker. After amassing a following of 50+ thousand professionals on Linkedin, Manu was able to glean some wisdom that Stefan’s taken advantage of to this day. Many shared that if you jump in and begin creating and curating content on LinkedIn today, you’d still be considered an early adopter. The platform hasn’t reached saturation, there’s room for youth and adults alike to build a strong professional brand.

As businesspeople, influencers and future world movers and shakers, attention is currency and according to Manu it’s not too late to take your fair share of the pie on LinkedIn. With over 250 million active users… I’d be happy to take a small crumble of the left over slices falling off the side of the table!

Today, as a result of the show, Stefan’s taken strides to increase the volume and quality of his posts on LinkedIn and he’s seen immediate results.

“I can already see the exact same posts I put on LinkedIn getting more traction and views than the ones that I post on Instagram.”

You don’t need to tell me twice. If we’re going to take our professional brand seriously, there’s no time like the present to aggressively leverage LinkedIn to build our brands.

Fun Facts About Stefan

Stefan admitted to being a huge Michael Jackson fan back in High School. So much so that he would video tape himself learning the moves and post them on Youtube. The name of that channel is still unknown, but what we do know is that you can see an extremely revealing (and impressive) 30 second clip of Stefan dancing here (skip to 18:30).

The Death of Joy

As a parting thought from our time together, Stefan offered the idea he’s been pondering over the past few weeks,

“Comparison is the thief of joy.”

I personally returned the thought with an axiom I frequently revisit,

“Don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 7.”

Stefan reminds us that while there are so many opportunities today because of social media, it can be equally as destructive, if we allow it. As Jim Rohn says, we need to stand guard at the doors of our minds.  If we don’t we’ll allow the lifestyles, possessions, and perceived happiness of others to plant seeds of fear, doubt and uncertainty of our own unique paths.

We’re quick to wish we could do more or have more, even if those things aren’t actual priorities for us. Stefan is working on and challenges us to stop comparing ourselves to others, especially from what you see on social media. To seek our own truths, to work hard on what makes us passionate, and attack each day, one step at a time.

Stefan’s Do This Directives

  1. Raise your LinkedIn game – It can be extremely challenging to break out on matured and saturated social media platforms. Yes, our content needs to be high quality. Yes, our ideas and positions need to be provocative and thought provoking. We won’t argue that. But if we’re going to be posting anyways, let’s up our game by using a platform that still has significant room for us to grow a strong and loyal following. See you on LinkedIn!
  2. Focus on your own path – We all have goals, desires and ambitions unique to us. However, we’re so easily intoxicated by the sizzle of others lifestyles. Hold your ground, don’t compare yourself to people’s possessions and lives. Can you use it as fuel to create a better life? Yes. But ensure you’re standing guard at your mind and not allowing comparison to steal your joy.
  3. Listen to the Restless Millennial. Now available on Spotify, you can find Stefan’s Podcast with Manu Goswami here.

Audio Show Timeline

  • 00:00 intro who is Stefan Spinoff
  • 1:30 what is the Restless Millennial
  • 4:30 favourite guests
  • 9:00 how to ask better questions
  • 10:30 taking advantage of journalism background
  • 14:30 challenges of doing the podcast
  • 16:00 things people don’t know about Stefan
  • 19 who is Stefan grateful for
  • 21 Stefans process for self improvement
  • 23:20 don’t compare yourself to others

Till next time stay on the offence. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And don’t forget what Jim Rohn said, “you can’t change the destination of your life overnight but you can change the direction.” 

Jonathan Andrews

Out.