Do The Opposite

If most North Americans are living paycheck to paycheck, the majority obese or overweight and a staggering number of people feel unfulfilled, why are we funneled down the same path?

If the majority of people struggle with what is often seen as the fundamentals to a happy life, financial achievement, health and vitality and our spiritually, isn’t success in all of these areas as simple as doing the opposite of most people?

It’s practical… It’s logical… But, it has to be more complicated than that right? Let’s take a look.

  1. Do you think most people wake up inspired to take action and conquer the day? Or do most people wake up tired and groggy, only to hit snooze and fall back asleep for another 10-30 minutes?
  2. Do you think most people eat 5 or more servings of fruit and vegetables a day? Or do most people consume enormous amounts of sugar, processed foods and unhealthy fats?
  3. Do you think most people do resistance workouts with high intensity 3-4x per week? Or do most people make excuses about lack of time and get into the gym with no consistency?
  4. Do you think most pay themselves 10-20% of their income first before they spend money on expenses? Or do most people struggle so much with their expenses they don’t even have the opportunity to pay themselves at all?
  5. Do you think most people invest at least 10% of their income of their own personal and professional development? Or do most people invest their money into entertainment rather than education?
  6. Do you think most people are working to consistently get out of their comfort zones? Or do most people live their life in a box afraid to venture out and grow?

I’d be more than happy to continue with more examples but I believe you get the point. If you don’t, ponder this thought from Jim Rohn,

Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines practiced every day”.

If most people aren’t willing to practice the simple disciplines that make up a successful life, we should have no problem separating ourselves from the masses. Read over the questions above one more time. This time I want you to place yourself inside those examples. Do you identify with the first question or the second? My guess is that if you’re taking the energy to read this blog, you’re already well on your way to creating the disciplines necessary to live your best life. Kudos to you for reading!

Perhaps you identify with the second questions, and that’s OK. Remember that today is the perfect day to begin changing the direction of your life! I strongly believe that a fulfilled life is much less complicated than we make it. Whatever most people are doing, you should probably do the opposite. It’s 9:07Pm on a Wednesday night as I’m writing this post. Most people are either watching TV or scrolling through social media right now. That’s OK… If you have no goals. But, again, if you’re reading this I know you have a burning desire like me to do something great.

Do this.

Starting today, look at how you can do the opposite of most people. If most people zig, try to zag. Starting today, forget the habits that most people have. Most people are broke, tired and uninspired. We have a real opportunity to discipline ourselves. To build the habits that will support us. To build the habits that will support our familes. And by doing so, by doing the opposite of most people, I’m convinced we’ll live an extraordinary life together.

Till next time, stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight, but you can change your direction”.

-J

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Be. Do. Have.

One of the biggest frustrations in life is looking for an above average job, with above average pay, without becoming an above average person!” – Jim Rohn

One of the biggest challenges we’ll face on our own unique journey of achievement is focusing on the wrong things. Over time we’ve developed an unhealthy focus on having. Having things, having money, having the end result. Think about it… Yesterday when you scrolled through social media, weren’t you constantly inundated with peoples supposed success stories? Whether it’s real or fake, on Instagram and Facebook we see young people with fancy watches, nice cars, money, beautiful bodies etc… Dramatically more often than not, this success is fake. Whether it’s rented cars or borrowed money, plastic surgery, or filters on pictures, it’s often a facade.

Even when the success is genuine, and those same people worked their asses off to achieve what they wanted, it still proposes a problem. When you and I look up to those examples we get obsessed with the end result, we get obsessed with the having. We have a hard time separating the end results with the two dramatically more important focuses of the success equation, being and doing.

When I look at the real achievers in my life, it’s almost never about having. It’s about the journey. When I look at real achievers their success equation looks like this:

  1. Be or becoming
  2. Do or doing

Their equation focuses on the journey and the process of becoming the type of person that would deserve the type of success they desire.

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Gary Vaynerchuk is the perfect example of be, do have. For anyone that follows Gary, you know focuses on the 2 most important parts of that success equation, the being and the doing.

First, he focuses on who he is being: what should his self-talk sound like? What should his personal philosophy be? How should he treat other people?  These are in the realm of who he is. Gary is patient, Gary is a hard worker, Gary always provides more value than he takes, Gary has long term goals, Gary is charismatic, Gary is resilient. Here’s a great question to ask yourself: Who are you becoming? Who do you want to be? What character traits do you want to embody? Start there. Ask yourself those questions, and then come with me to the doing.

Second, by becoming that person, he was then able to venture out into the realm of doing. Imagine Gary wasn’t patient. In 2007 he would have started his Youtube show, and quit after 10 episodes. Nobody watched his videos for over 2 years. But by focusing on who he was, which was patient, he was able to create over 1000 videos and ultimately had incredible success. This is where I needed to check my own thinking… In order for us to do what a successful person would do, we need to become a successful person in our minds first. We need to think like an achiever or, here’s the blunt truth, we’ll never commit, stay persistent, or learn the skills we need to justify the having. Now that you’ve committed to being that person you want to become, here’s some other great questions to ask yourself: what time would that person wake up? What type of goals would that person have? What type of books would that person read? What type of foods would that person eat? What do you need to do day in and day out to justify having what you want?

First, embody the person we want to become. Do the things that person would do. And finally, by taking those actions, you can justify having what you desire.

Is that you today? Because for the majority of my life I had that equation backwards. One of my good friends Happie asked me yesterday if I’d always been such a good listener. His compliment gave me an opportunity to reflect. My answer was NO! My family used to tell me over and over that I sucked at listening and that they felt I never cared what they had to say. I told him that I had to consciously focus on becoming a person who was intensely interested in other people (being). Because of that focus I read all the books on communication, body language and interacting with people I could find (doing). As a result of becoming an above average person, committed to learning new skills, today I’m known as a great listener (my girlfriend may argue with me on this one)….

And for the majority of people looking for an above average paying job, or to grow a profitable business, they also have this equation backwards. If you were like me, or like most people, they’re looking to have the having, without becoming. Without becoming, you’ll never have the skills or character needed to do the doing long enough to deserve what it is you want to have! We’ve got it backwards!

Do This.

Check your thinking. Do you focus on becoming better? Or, do you focus on wanting more?

If you’re honest with yourself, and your answer is: I’m focused on wanting more… Today is a great day to change the direction of that focus. 

Till next time, stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change he destination of your life overnight, but you can change your direction.

-J

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Plan Your Path

“If you fail to plan, you plan to fail”- Jim Rohn

Setting an intention is not enough. Making a declaration won’t cut it. Without a clear, detailed plan, screaming out your window that you’re going to be the world’s greatest just makes you crazy. Okay, even with a plan, you’re probably still a bit crazy…

Everyone talks about goals. Every personal development guru preaches goals as the key to success. Because of that I find most people take the idea for granted and do not have clearly defined goals. If I was to ask you to show me your list of goals for tomorrow, this week, month, year, and long term, what would you say? Would you say, “that’s a good question, let me think about it,”or would you say, “hold on, let me get my journal out of my bag and I’ll show you.” For the sake of you and your families future, I hope your answer is the latter.

Planning your path is simple, but it’s not easy. Most people, including myself for the first 18 years of my life, will never write out, take action on and achieve their meticulously planned out list of goals.

“The key to success, is doing what the failures won’t.”

Guess what the failures of our society aren’t doing… They’re not planning their path! I am, and after today, so will you. Let’s walk you through how. There are only 3 parts to successful goal setting: reasons, specifics and a formula for achievement.

Reasons

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Do you think I love waking up at 5am? Do you think my accountability partner Ryan loves waking up at 4am? Hell no. We would both love to get 9 hours of sleep every night! Why do we do it? We have enough reasons. Personally, I love the way it makes me feel to have complete control and discipline over myself. I get excited knowing that when most people are sleeping, I can get the slightest leg up day by day. I have enough reasons. For Ryan, he trains his personal training clients at 5, 6 and 7 am. He disciplines himself because he loves what he does. He feels gratitude everyday knowing that he’s able to change people lives and do what he’s passionate about.

 

Your goals, your level of desire, your vision  for your future can explode to new heights if you only had enough reasons. Here are a few to ponder. Decide today what reasons will help you live the life of your dreams.

  1. Personal reasons– Are you driven by:
    1. Recognition?
    2. Respect?
    3. Mastery?
    4. Legacy?
    5. The way it makes you feel? Those are all good reasons. I have some millionaire friends who keep working 10-12 hours a day, not because they need the money, but because they need the joy and satisfaction of being a constant winner!
  2. Family Reasons– Some people do extremely well for other people. Human beings can greatly effect each other! In fact, we’ll often do things for other people that we would never do for ourselves.
    1. Example 1: Andrew Carnegie. They found a note written in his desk at the end of his life. At the age of 20, Andrew wrote on his goal card, “I’m going to spend the first half of my life accumulating money. I’m going to spend the second half of my life giving it all away.” Andrew got so inspired by that goal of affecting other people, in the first half of his life he accumulated $450,000,000. He spent the second half of his life giving it all away.
    2. Example 2: I’m so driven by the aim of retiring my dad, I’ll do anything for him. I’ll work three jobs. I’ll wake up at 4am every day. Anything. A good question to ask yourself is who will you work harder for than you would for yourself?
  3. Nitty Gritty Reasons- 
    1. Jim Rohn tells an incredible story about one of his friends named Bobby. He writes that as an unhappy school teacher Bobby decided he would get into sales. Bobby’s brother thought he was crazy! He had a great job, it paid well and it was secure. His brother, made fun of him, put him down and told his whole family he would go broke. Bobby got so mad at the way his brother treated him, he decided to get rich. Is it possible to get that mad? Hell yes! It turns out wealth is not a matter of intelligence, it’s a matter of inspiration! Bobby quickly became one of Jim’s millionaire friends and to this day is a great example of nitty gritty reasons for achievement.

What pisses you off? Who pisses you off? Ask yourself. Get a long enough reasons so after today you never lack for inspiration.Which reasons will get you bombed out of sight to get up early, stay up late and hit it all day? Enough reasons will forever alter your life.

Specifics For Goal Setting

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There are two parts to goal setting, long range and short range goals.

  1. Long range goals– These are your dreams! These are your goals for the next 3-5-10-20-40 years. Actually the rest of your life.There’s a bible phrase that says that without visions people parish! You’ve got to have something to go after that inspires the heart and the soul. Ask yourself:
    1. Where do you want to go?
    2. What do you want to do?
    3. What do you want to be?
    4. What do you want to see?
  2. Short range goals– These are your goals for tomorrow,  this week, this month, this year. I focus intensely on short range goals with my accountability partnership. First, the world changes and we change… Therefore long range goals may also change over time. However, short range goals are confidence boosters. If you set up something short range, go for it, work hard,  accomplish it, that starts building your confidence for going for your dreams!

Both long and short range goals have three categories.

  1. Economic goals– These are your goals for money, income, business, or profits. Make sure you have them well planned! Economics plays a major role one everyone’s life. That’s why they should be meticulously planned for this week, this month, this year, and long range. What if I asked you tomorrow if I could see your meticulously well planned list of economic goals? Remember, it’s worth repeating that success is doing what the failures won’t do. Make sure you’ve got your economics well planned. It will put you in the top 5 percent.
  2.  Things- This is a fun one. These are the things you want! Little things as well as major things. Put everything on your list. It doesn’t matter how small! Load your list with everything… Cars, homes, watches, a gym membership, books, a lamp… everything! Part of the fun of having a list is checking it off! 
  3.  Personal development goals- These are your goals to be stronger, be a speaker, be a leader, learn a language, all kinds of skills.  You attract what you want by the person you become. Skills are what attracts. Make never ending improvement a high priority in your life and get started on your list of personal development goals.

**** NOTE

When you check off something major, celebrate! Have a party when you reach something you’ve worked a while for. We grow from two experiences, the pain of losing or the joy of winning. We need both of them. Amplify them as much as you can. Which also means, make losing painful! If you didn’t get it, because you fooled around or procrastinated, be hard on yourself! But, if you worked hard and you did get it, live it up!

Formula For Goal Achievement

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  1.  Work on your goals- Setting goals is hard work. There’s no point in kidding you. That’s why a lot of people just let goal setting slide. They hear it’s key, they know it’s important, but as I mentioned, goal setting is simple but not easy. Part of the work involved is called planning your path. I know most people won’t. But, don’t let that be you.
  2. Write your goals down- Put your goals in your journal. It allows your accountability partner to help keep you on track. It shows you’re serious about doing better. And to do better, you need to get serious. Everyone hopes things will get better. If you’re not serious, 5 years from now you’ll wake up wearing what you don’t want to wear, driving what you don’t want to drive and being what you don’t want to be. Now is the time to get serious about your goals!
  3. Take massive action on your plan- Go all in. Push yourself. When roadblocks come up and you don’t feel like it’s worth it, remember all the reasons you started. Keep taking action. Move past your threshold of comfort and you will see massive growth and achievement. Make adjustments when necessary, but make sure you tackle your goals aggressively.

Congratulations! This has simultaneously been my longest and most important post. Having a clear direction has not only helped me over come depression, but it’s helped me  grow my first 6 figure ARR gross sales business, become an award winning public speaker and a 2017 Fellow with Venture For Canada.

Do this:

If you’re serious about planning your path, leave a comment! I will personally reach out and work with you to hold you accountable for your goals. I’m going to retire my dad. What do you want?

Till next time, stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight, but you can change your direction”.

-J

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Pick Your Path

“The only thing worse than setting the wrong direction is having no direction” – Jim Rohn

This is one of those lessons I learned the hard way. For 2 years, being directionless taught me not only will you not be an achiever if you have no goals, you will quickly become depressed. Before 16 years old, I never knew why we needed goals and why the lack thereof is so anxiety inducing.

If you’re reading this, I know you can relate. A lack of clarity and direction produces uncertainty. Go back to a time in your life when you were down. There’s a high probability you were confused about your direction. You questioned yourself, why you’re here and what you’re truly passionate about.

My goal is to help you avoid my path. For 2 years I had no direction and it was a big mistake. What I was missing is that as a human being, I am obviously, as Doctor Maxwell Malts said, like a bicycle.

If a bicycle isn’t headed towards something, or moving forward, it loses it’s equilibrium and it will fall over. Well you and I are designed exactly like that emotionally. When I was 16, I wasn’t moving towards anything. No direction. No purpose. No goals. What I’ve come to realize is that at any point in my life where I’ve lacked this clarity, of knowing that I was going towards something, my life fore, our life force, and our energies are kind of just splintered and splattered. And we cannot produce results like that. Fuck, we can’t be happy like that.

So why set goals? Why have a clear direction? Because it is consistent with our nature. Remember the bicycle? Because it garners and focuses our energies to get things done.

You know what happens when you set goals and focus on something that you want? When we’re focused, in your sleep, we begin to create blue prints in our subconscious to achieve what we want next!

“Our subconscious is either our best friend or our greatest enemy”

We’ve all experienced this. I remember being back in High School and having a test the next day. I studied all night for math and often wouldn’t be able to solve a few problems. When I went to bed I didn’t have the answer. But, when I woke up in the morning I knew exactly which direction to take it. I had the answer.  The subconscious is amazing, once it knows what we want ,our mind must align with what we want and help us get it.

On the other hand, there’s a downside to that. The downside is when I was 16 with no direction, my mind just sat idly,  focusing on anything that came into my experience because it didn’t know what I wanted! My subconscious said,

“well it looks like Jonathan doesn’t want anything, so let’s give him a whole bunch of things he may not want. Because it’s clear he doesn’t want anything!”

The next thing that shows up? You guessed it. It’s uncertainty, anxiety, and confusion. Why did those emotions show up? Why do they show up for you? Their warning signs. We’re out of sync! I wish I could give my 15 year old self this talk. Jonathan, you’re depressed and out of sync because you’re like a bicycle. You need to keep moving. You need to set some goals in alignment with improving your self-image.

But, instead, I’m taking that advice now and I’m also giving it to you.

Do this:

Set a direction. Set a few goals and take action towards it’s accomplishment. Write them down. Share them with your accountability partner and work towards those aims as a team. Finally, stay tuned for my next post as I dive deeper into setting intelligent goals.

Remember, don’t get hung up on carving out the perfect path. Firstly, there is more than one path to the same outcome. Don’t let that be your excuse to not get started. And more importantly, the only thing worse than the wrong direction, is no direction. 

Till next time, stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight, but you can change your direction”.

-J

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The Tipping Point

Did you know…

92% of the 17 million people that try to quit smoking each year fail.

95% of people who lose weight fail to keep it off long term.

88% of people who set New Year’s resolutions fail at their attempt.

Why is the world full of well intentioned people trying to make positive change, yet so many fail? Why do you hold yourself back from positive change? 

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It’s an important question that I’ve been asking myself in 2017 more than ever. For example, I’ve been telling myself I would start blogging about my mental health journey for two years.  Yet, I only started a few months ago. I’ve been telling myself for the last year that I would also make videos. I know I’m a strong communicator, I know I have talent and I also know that if I I could get myself to blog, I can get myself to make videos!

Whether you want to lose weight, quit smoking, ask your cute neighbour on a date, or if you’re just like me and you want to make videos, we all need to find out what I like to call our tipping point.

Before that however, we need to understand that a fundamental level, there are two forces that motivate us to do what we do: the desire to avoid pain or the desire to gain pleasure. Taking action and making a change isn’t a matter of ability, it’s a matter of motivation. When change is a should, most people won’t make the change. If change is a must, it’s another story! The tipping point makes taking action a must.

The tipping point is a strategy I’ve used successfully in the past. I’ve used it to overcome some of my biggest roadblocks in creating change. When I wanted to start waking up at 5am, I  used the tipping point. When I wanted to speak in public for the first time, I used the tipping point. And, just like when I finally decided to write my first blog, I’m going to use the tipping point to take action on my first videos.

“Simply put, our tipping point can be described as the moment in time when we associated more pain to inaction than we do to action. “

I want you to imagine an unbalanced scale. scale - blogIf you’re like most people (often including me), your scale is either completely level or tipped in the direction of your fears and excuses. Meaning we can’t take action! If our desire to make a positive change is overpowered by your fears of taking action, we will not change. In this visual, we’ve found the tipping point, only in the wrong direction. In other words,

“Until our perceived fear of taking action is outweighed by the pain of not taking action, we won’t change.”

Have you noticed the whole world is full of people who’s fears are bigger than their desire to take action? Have you noticed that all of the movers, shakers, and people we look up to in this world decided that the pleasure of  creating a legacy and making an impact far out weighted all of their concerns and excuses?

In order to access the tipping point, we need to associate massive PAIN to not changing NOW, and massive PLEASURE to changing immediate. The motivation is based on both pain AND pleasure. Pain is short-term motivation, but you need the pleasure for long term change.

Do This (If you’re not going to participate, close the window now because you’re wasting your time).

*I’ve used the following questions about making videos to help unlock my tipping point. Take the time to ask yourself the same for whatever you want to change!

Pain-associating questions:

  1. What will not changing cost cost me?
  2. What has not changing cost me in the past?
  3. What is not changing costing the people you love?
  4. What is it costing you in (money, work, family etc)?

Questions that identify inconsistency

  1. How does not changing keep you from being close with your friends and family?
  2. Should people follow a leader that doesn’t have the discipline to make the change you’re trying to make?
  3. How can you tell yourself that it’s okay to not make the change even though you think about it everyday?

Pleasure-associating questions:

  1. If you change this now, how will your life be?
  2. What will you gain?
  3. What will it mean for the people you love?
  4. What will it give you?

Final thoughts… The tipping point will only happen when you’re emotionally associated to the massive, immediate pain of not changing, and the massive immediate pleasure of changing now. If you find the questions helpful in making that change, share them with someone you think it can help!

Till next time, stay on the offense. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight, but you can change your direction”.

J

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Fluctuations: The Law of Impermanence

As you’re reading this, I bet you’ve gone through your fair share of ups and downs in life. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could only experience the ups and avoid the downs? Well, it’s more complicated than that…

I grew up strong, confident and competitive. On top of the world, I competed for Canada in Trampoline at only 13 years old. But, overtime, my mindset changed and ultimately so did my circumstances. I became pessimistic, I lacked belief in myself and lost my drive to win. At my lowest of lows, I’ve laid in the comfort of my bed for days on end. Not moving for school, for sports, for family, nothing. My depression and anxiety overwhelming. Those months were the darkest days of my life. I felt completely numb. I contemplated whether or not life was worth living. And I almost said no.

For the majority of my life I never understood why I had experienced such dramatic change in my mindset and circumstances.  When life was going so well, why did I suddenly experience such a major low?

But, recently, it all started making sense to me. Last week I walked into CSI Pitchmasters like I do every Tuesday. Joze, our Toastmaster for the evening, was on fire. His theme: Fluctuations. Tuesday night he was witty, philosophical and he shared a unique perspective of Buddhist philosophy I’d never heard before. He said,

“Fluctuations are an inherent fabric of life. The Buddhist law of impermanence states that because nothing is permanent, attachment to the ups leads to inevitable suffering. Conversely, aversion to the downs is illogical because those too shall pass”.

What a powerful observation.

Life is cyclical. As Jim Rohn would say, life is like the changing seasons.

Winter- a season of difficulties, trials and tribulations.

Spring- a season of opportunity. The time and space for us to start new projects.

Summer- a season to hustle. The time for us to work hard and protect all the good we started.

Fall- a season of harvest. The time to reap all the rewards of which you’ve previously sown.

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As I spaced out reflecting in the meeting reflecting on my life, it became clear to me now that my life, my thoughts and my circumstances have always fluctuated. That it is in the contrast of our emotions that beauty exists. If there was no such thing as winter, how can we truly appreciate the summer? If there was no pain, how can identify our joy? If I never experienced my depression, I never would have treasured the happiness I now enjoy.

I regained my focus just in time to catch Joze finishing up his toast. He said that the philosophical pop-singer Nelly Furtado once sang,

“All good things come to an end”. And that he would modify those lyrics into,

“All things come to an end”.

I now know that too be true. So, if you’re experiencing a high, please share in the comments so we can help celebrate your success!

If you’re experiencing a low, know that I’ve been there. It’s okay for you too as well. Don’t get too addicted to the ups, they are temporary. And don’t get too bogged down by the downs, they too are temporary. There are people you can reach out to and connect with for support. I personally know that in my lowest of lows, the strongest and most courageous thing I did was ask for help. I couldn’t have done it alone, and you don’t have to either. Email me at mrjfandrews@gmail.com or send a text to 416 886 4774, I only write this blog to help.

Till next time, stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight, but you can change your direction”.

-J

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Practicality of Positive Thinking

Courtesy of my favourite Google Chrome Plug In  Momentum, every morning I open my laptop, I’m presented with an inspirational picture and quote.

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How appropriate that as I sat down this morning to write about the mind, our thoughts and ultimately how they dictate the success or failure of every facet of our life, Momentum gave me this quote,

“Don’t think about what might go wrong, think about what could be right.”

How true! But it’s not enough to understand this concept on a surface level. For you and I to take our health, wealth, relationships, or impact on this world to the next level we need internalize this as part of our belief system. Fundamentally, positive thinking is extremely practical. And while the mind and brain are extremely complex, my mentor George Zalucki broke it down for me so that it is simple to explain. He said the mind is made up of two parts, the thinker and the prover.

The thinker thinks. 

The prover proves. 

What does the prover prove? Simple, whatever the thinker thinks! This is why positive thinking is so fucking practical! Let’s explore two examples:

A) I can’t do it. That is my thought. Now, the proving part of my mind must bring into my experience the actual events and criteria that say’s, you’re right! You can’t do it…

The thinker thinks and the prover proves.

B) I can do it. That is my thought. The thinker thinks, what must the prover prove? The prover must bring into my experience all of the events and criteria that say’s, you’re right! You can do it…

The thinker thinks and the prover proves.

Simple right? Here’s where it becomes a challenge, most of our thoughts are unconscious. That means that 95% of my life is run by my subconscious programming! When I started to take a more positive direction in my life, I had to become conscious of every thought coming from my thinker!

What do you think my prover said to me through 18 years of thinking: I’m not good enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not good looking enough, your voice is too feminine, your nose isn’t symmetrical, you can’t be a public speaker, I’ll always be a runner up, there’s no point of living? You guessed it… It said, you’re right! 

When I started to consciously think more positive thoughts, my life change was dramatic. For example, at 18 my parents forced me to start working with them on their business. Forced WAY out of my comfort zone, I was asked to speak in public, to sell and share the companies story. If I let my subconscious do the thinking for me… My prover would have slapped me in the face with massive failure.

Instead, I thought, I can do this, I deserve this, I’m confident, I have what it takes, I know the information, I will be charming and charismatic and they will love me. Guess what happened? Surprise, surprise, my prover brought into my life all of the experiences that were in exact agreement with the thinker.

I started to gain momentum. My self-esteem sky rocketed. I was asked to speak more and more. Eventually, my subconscious thoughts became empowering and self-serving. I’ll be forever grateful for those months and years of consciously focusing on positive thoughts.

“Thinking about what could go right changed my life.”

Do this: Choose two new empowering thoughts that you will repeat consciously. When something outside your comfort zone presents itself, remember those thoughts. Repeat them to yourself. Yell out loud, I CAN do it! And like magic, you’ll gain the strength you need, like I have, to overcome all obstacles.

Till next time, stay on the offensive. Aggressively purse a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight, but you can change your direction”.

-J

Out.