IWTYTS – How to prepare for a speech 2/3

While critical, the mindset of performance is not nearly as sexy as it’s counterpart, the tactics! Today, let’s push past the mindset of preparation and explore the tactics required for beginner and intermediate speakers to crush their next performance.

After all, the unprepared speaker has the right to be afraid. 

My goal from this post is to give you three actionable take aways that will remove your anxieties and ensure high performance. Beginner and intermediate speakers alike can take advantage of the following three rules. The 24 hour rule, the video rule, and the real life rule.

(If you prefer these tips in video, click here)

24 Hour Rule

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I use the 24 hour rule as my measuring stick for how prepared I am. If I’m giving a speech Tuesday night at 8pm, then by Monday night at 8pm at the latest, I should be completely ready to give that speech as if it was on Monday night! As soon as you start using the night before a presentation as the main hours for practice, you’ve already lost. 

As a speaker and communicator, your unconscious mind is your most powerful asset.

Preparation ahead of time gives your presentation time to sink deep within your subconscious mind. When you find yourself truly mesmerized by a presentation it’s virtually always because it comes off authentic, like they came up with it on the spot.

That’s the feeling you want to give your audience. 

If you’re giving yourself less than the 24 hour rule, you’ll either be A) underprepared and stumbling on your words or B) just prepared enough that you sound robotic as if you’re reading from a script.

That is not how you persuade and it’s not how you deliver exceptional performances.

If you want an accurate measure of how prepared you are before a big presentation use the 24 hour rule and ensure you’re ready at least 24 hours before your next big speech.

The Video Rule 

Video rule

People are often given misguided advice when it comes to speech prep. That, if you practice in front of a mirror… it’s just like the real thing!

That’s bullshit!

Practicing in front of a mirror does not accurately represent what you will look like in front of an audience. My recommendation is to use the video rule instead. The next time you have a big presentation, get a video with your entire body in the frame. Film the speech you’re were going to give and then spend time combing out the knots.

You’ll be surprised on how many adjustments you can make through watching yourself on video. I gave one of the biggest speeches of my life at the Speaker Slam Grand Slam back in November of 2017. When I watched my practice video I found that I was doing all these tiny bounces and my movements were clearly abrupt and contrived.

Fortunately, I used the video rule to take the presentation from a 6 or 7 to a 9 or 10! The presentation turned out to be fluid, and in fact one of the best example of effective body language and gesticulation I’ve ever given.

Make sure you use the video rule. It will only make you better!

Real Life Rule

This one is my favourite because if you use it, you’ll separate yourself from 90% of communicators. It’s so simple.

Give your pitch to your dog. Practice your job interview with a buddy. Give your presentation before you need to give your presentation!

No matter how many times I practice in my room and film myself, it’s always a bit different when there’s a thousand people staring at me. So if you want to go into the world and make a difference, crush that pitch, and get a standing ovation, use these three rules: the 24 hour rule, the video rule, and the real life rule.

I promise, there is nothing more anxiety inducing than being underprepared, and nothing more empowering than knowing, without a shadow of a doubt, that this will be the best presentation of your life.

Till next time stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight but you can change the direction.”

-J

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IWTYTS – How to prepare for a speech 1/3

When I was 20 years old I had an epiphytic moment. After reflecting on my life, my successes, my failures and all of the things I was proud of, one theme above all else stood out to me.

Success loves preparation. 

As simple as it seems, that moment has unarguably changed my life. When I connected the dots to all of the moments I succeeded and was honest enough with myself to understand why I’ve failed, it all came down to preparation.

Did I put in the work to understand my craft? Did I train hard enough in the gym that my competitors had no chance? Ultimately, was I ready for the task at hand?

The times where I can definitely shout, yes! I won. The times where now looking back, I sink my head in disappointment because I didn’t, I lost.

Today is about helping you realize that theme for yourself. To understand that the only thing that’s stopping you from public speaking success is your level of preparation. You don’t need any connections and you certainly don’t need any previous experience in communications. I’ve worked with some of the worst speakers you could imagine and over a 6-12 week period watched them literally transform.

All you need is the desire to speak confidently and the will to prepare long enough and with even focus that your success becomes inevitable. 

This post is part 1 of 3 on how to prepare for a memorable presentation. The first step to crushing it on stage is to dive deep into the mindset of high performance and what you should be saying to yourself in order to execute at the highest levels.

(If you prefer these tips in video, click here)

At the end of the day, we create our realities through our language. And that’s not necessarily what we say out loud… Although that matters too. Our words are merely reflections of our internal dialogue and at our core, our beliefs about ourselves. Let me give you two examples of completely different uses of language and how they will impact your next performance.

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Meet Happie. He’s one of my best friends in Toronto and believes he’s an incredible speaker. Therefore his internal dialogue and as a result the words he expresses are a reflection of those empowering thoughts and beliefs. Just the other week he was asked a question impromptu in front of a group we were speaking to. Very subtly, he said out loud,

“I’m going to crush this.”

So let me ask you, how do you think he did?

He was incredible. So good in fact that night I compared him to Oprah. But that shouldn’t come as a surprise for you! Happie created that reality for himself through his use of empowering language.

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A contrasting example is another friend of mine Dave. Dave has a different belief system. I remember that same night, which was the inspiration for this video, he was giving a speech evaluation for another Toastmaster.

Like most people (maybe you can relate), he’s very uncertain about his ability to communicate as a public speaker. In the first few sentences he said out loud for the whole group to peek deep inside his belief systems, “Moshe, I don’t know if this evaluation will be any good, but….”

Based on what we’ve covered so far, I bet you can imagine how the rest of that evaluation went. You betcha, mediocre at best. But it’s not that Dave didn’t have the skills, knowledge, or the competence to deliver a great evaluation, he does! The only think he lacked was the belief. These stories aren’t just about public speaking and their not about Happie or Dave, these examples are to illustrate a universal law that governs performance:

We create our realities through our language. 

No athlete makes it to the olympics without the belief that they have the talent and drive to get them there. No salesperson smashes their quotas without the beliefs of abundance and certainty. And you and I will not create exceptional performances, speeches that inspire and mobilize people into action unless, like Happie, we intentionally use empowering language to create the realities we desire.

Let me repeat that, unless you and I intentionally use empowering language, we will not create the realities we desire. 

That is how you prepare to compete, to perform and of course, to speak.

Only once you have your mindset right will the results follow.

Do This.

I want you to intentionally choose empowering language in the next high stakes situation of your life. It can be as simple as “I’m going to crush this. I’m going to crush this. I’m going to crush this.”

Whatever you need to do or say to yourself to get your mindset right, do it. It’s the first and most pivotal step to high performance and crushing your next speech. That was part 1 of speech preparation, and if you apply this concept you’ll be blown away as your confidence soars and you begin to use empowering language in every aspect of your life.

Till next time, stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight but you can change the direction.”

-J

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IWTYTS – How to persuade with ease

Have you ever wondered what one of the most powerful tools of influence is?

I’ve found and witnessed first hand, whispering, when used properly, can become your most effective tool for influence and persuasion. Not only should contrast in volume already be integrated into your daily communication but the whisper specifically evokes many unconscious triggers that will help people agree with you, buy from you, and genuinely want to hear what you’re saying.

If we think critically as to why that is, it becomes very clear. The whisper sets off a trigger in the mind of your audiences that what your saying is either secretive, important, or scarce. All three of which cause the people your communicating with to whether they know the reason why or not to focus, engage, and to take what your saying seriously

Now don’t take this lightly because of it’s simplicity. Let me give you two examples of ways that I commonly use the whisper, the impact it has and than follow that up with how you can put it into practice starting today.

(If you prefer these tips in video, check out how to persuade with ease here)

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Last week I’m having a conversation with one of my work mates John Connell. He’s an incredible guy, really one of my best friends. Typically, we talk about goals and personal development and on this occasion we landed on the topic of books.

He’s across the room, so I lean in slightly and say in a whisper, “hey John, do you want to know the rule I use for picking what books I read?” He reacted just like I expected. He looked side to side as if I was telling him a secret (now I didn’t say it was a secret but unconsciously he perceived what I was saying as important and secretive), stood up and walked from across the room to sit down beside me where we talked about books for about 10 minutes.

 It can be that simple to engage and draw people into what you want to talk about!

Another example is whenI give feedback to the people I coach in speaking. For the most part feedback is best given in the sandwich approach. Tell them what they did well,  move into room for improvement, and then, I’ll naturally lower my volume for what I think will make the biggest impact.

The second my volume dips, unconsciously they know they are about to get the goods! The most important point, the point they will take away and think about for the next few days, is on the tip of my tongue. I didn’t need to say it was important, because again, they recognize based on my volume that what I’m saying is important.

Hopefully by now you can see that the slightest variations in your delivery can have a massive impact on everyday encounters.

Do This. 

What I want to challenge you to do, is in the next 3 conversations you have, is incorporate the whisper. When you deliver a point that you want someone to remember or take away, drop your volume as naturally as possible. However, do avoid a dramatic change in volume to something that becomes inaudible or that comes off as contrived. It will not be as effective as a natural transition.

Start in those low stakes conversations and naturally progress into your business meetings, pitches and of course when you’re on stage. If the whisper works for you as well as it has for me, you’ll begin to persuade and influence with ease and find your self engaging audiences, winning deals and holistically improving your communication!

 Till next time stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight but you can change your direction.”

-J

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IWTYTS – How to stop using filler words

Um….
So…..
Ah….
You know….
Like….
Do that sounds like you?
If it does, worry no more, in this post we cover how to get rid of the bain of a public speakers existence, filler words!
One of my favourite examples of helping someone drastically reduce their fillers is a Lawyer friend of mine named Dave. He was working to improve his public speaking because he had an upcoming speech for his sisters wedding. The first time I heard Dave speak, I was completely distracted, every other words was ah.
You can just imagine, “ah… hi my name is ah… Dave and ah… I’m here becuase ah…” You get the point. Fillers are distracting, they takes away from your message, and whether it’s true or not, gives your audience the impression that you don’t have full confidence in what your saying. No one want’s that. We want to be perceived as confident, charismatic and a figure of authority. And that’s why I broke down my best steps for eliminating filler words for you here!
Awareness
First, congratulations!
The most important driver to change, is awareness. If you’re taking the time to read  this post it’s likely that you’re aware that there is room for improvement in your communications. In order to eliminate filler words, you need to first recognize them.
Start by asking yourself these questions:
  1. Which one’s do you automatically use?
  2. How often do you use them?
  3. How much of a distraction are they? 
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Now that you now where you are, we can start making progress on where you want to be. I’ve found the next logical step to having awareness is to get a buddy who’s role is to make you aware daily. Have them look out for
your fillers! For example, I’ve given my girlfriend permission to call me out on my like’s and my so’s to help me continuously progress towards clear and more confident speech.
Start there, because without measurement and awareness of where you’re at, progress become sporadic and slow.
Pause
Could you imagine if we wrote how most people speak?
My post would have an ah or an um between each sentence! Clearly that would make no sense. The purpose of periods and commas are to demonstrate either a pause and break in our ideas. Without the pause, how are you supposed to process what I’m saying? 
We need to translate that same idea to our speaking. Pausing is a pivotal tool in communication to express thoughts clearly and have them be heard. Unfortunately, as a speaker although it makes sense logically, it’s challenging emotionally to allow silence while on stage or in front of a group of people.

I see speakers every day who fill the gaps between their ideas and either distract or erode from their power. We need to see pausing in a different way. Silence does not detract from your message it enhances your message. Silence does not
 make you look silly or incompetent, it makes you come
off as more thoughtful and contemplative. Finally, the pause allows your audience to connect with you, digest what your saying, and genuinely feel the emotions you’re trying to convey.
Once we flip our beliefs about silence and realize that pausing is actually our gift to the audience, you can embrace the pause and I guarantee you will automatically notice an immediate difference in the amount of fillers you use.
Don’t obsess. 
As much as using fillers can be distracting, nothing is worse than not being present in your conversations. In my obsessive journey with reducing fillers I found myself in a place where I wasn’t even having a conversation with people anymore. I was watching myself have a conversation with people, making sure I had perfect communication. It took a while for me to be present to the fact that no one’s perfect and there’s no need to obsess over fillers.
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As Brendon Burchard wrote in his new book high performance habits,
“Over concern with making mistakes increases anxiety and decreases performance.”
Don’t obssess, focus on progress.
Do this. 
Have the awareness of which words trip you up, and than focus on inserting pauses where they show up. If you don’t obsess, and use those two powerful tips, I guarantee within weeks you’ll be perceived as more confident, thoughtful, and you’ll be above 90% of communicators that don’t care about what they sound like.
Till next time stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight but you can change your direction.”
-J
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IWTYTS – 80/20 Principle

Ever heard of the 80/20 rule?

Also known as the Pareto Principle, super achievers have been using the 80/20 rule to shorten the learning curves for new skills for hundreds of years. It refers to getting clear on the 20% of your actions or inputs that will create 80% of what you want (which in our case is successful communication).

The first time I ever encountered the principle was in 2014 while reading Tim Ferriss’ book, the four hour work week. At the time I was building my first business and decided to test the idea to see if it worked.

(If you prefer these tips in video, you can find the 80/20 principle here)

It worked…

As a business owner there were so many things I could be focusing my time on from writing lists of prospects, cold calling, even buying pens! But using the 80/20 analysis I quickly realized that none of those activities were income producing. Therefore, none of those actives were my highest priority outputs. They weren’t the 20% of activities I should have been focused on.

It also helped me double down on what mattered. At the time, I learned that if I spent the vast majority of my time promoting events, I could win.

So I did just that.

My business took off! We build a sales team of over 50 people in less than 2 years and to this day it still bills over 6 figures in recurring revenue each year.

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I want to help you achieve the same thing with I Will Teach You To Speak. Together we’ll double down on what matters most to public speaking and learn the rest later. Fortunately, I’ve already done it for myself, so there’s no need to reinvent the wheel here.

The first thing I did when I dove into public speaking last year was figure out the 20% that would give me the success that I wanted.

“The 20% that matters, that will unlock better relationships, a better career, and standing ovations is confidence.” – Me 

Simple, yes.

Easy, not so much.

Some people just stopped reading because they said to themselves, “That’s it? There’s got to be more to it than that.”

Well to those people I’d say, well I can’t actually say because they just left, but because you’re still here I’d say that’s right. There is more to it than that. But it’s not the 20%!

In this series we’ll get to the other 80%. We’ll explore the impact of variety in volume, pacing, pitch, tone, to body language, eye contact, and gesticulation, all the way to story telling, speech writing, and the unconscious levers you can pull to influence.

But there’s no point in starting there.

Today is about simplicity and getting you to take the first step, the step towards confidence. If you’re one of those people that say to themselves, “I would rather die, than speak in public,” or maybe it’s only a bit of anxiety in social environments, heed my advice after thousands of hours of practice: develop your confidence through exposure.

Nothing will build your confidence more than public speaking itself.

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Just like you only became a confident kisser by kissing. Or only became a confident athlete by hundreds of shots or games. You will only become a confident speaker by standing up and speaking in front of groups.

Do This.

Here is how easy it can be for you to build your confidence, once a week, for 8-12 weeks stand in front of a group and share. Start small. Find a local toastmasters club, improv class, or debate team.

For those of you that think public speaking confidence is so out of reach and only an exclusive elite group of people, it only takes 2-3 months of consistent exposure to build a foundation of confidence. I’ve seen it in myself, in my peers and even in my shyest friends.

Do yourself, your family and your community a favour by starting today and taking the first step towards your public speaking success.

Next week, you’ll have wished it you started today. Next year, you’ll have wished you started this year.

Believe in yourself and start today!

Till next time stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself.And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You can’t change the destination of your life overnight but you can change your direction.”

-J

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IWTYTS – Why You, Why Me?

This preface blog to the series I will Teach You To Speak is called, “Why You, Why Me?” because we cover why you need to learn the unique craft of public speaking and why I should be the one that helps you dramatically improve your communication skills, 100% guaranteed.

(If you prefer these tips in video, you can find Why You, Why Me here)

Why you?

Why should you get out of your comfort zone when 95% of people would rather die than learn to speak in public? Well, besides cultivating more confidence and more credibility in your social life, you will become exponentially more valuable in the workplace and in your business with this skillset than any other.

Don’t believe me? You don’t have to take my word for it…

What about two billionaires words?

Richard Branson said,

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“Communication is the most important skill any leader can posses.”

Warren Buffett believes,

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“Effective communication will instantly raise a persons professional value by up to 50%”.

If some of the worlds most successful leaders credit speaking as the foundational skill behind all of their riches, what would it mean for you to master communication?

Would it mean a promotion? More profits in your business? Or maybe it would mean building stronger relationships with your friends and family.

Let’s picture the flip side…

What would it mean to you if you lived the rest of your life as only a mediocre communicator? Even in my short experience in the work force I’ve seen less talented people get promoted over their more talented peers because they were better influencers.

My girlfriend is the perfect example. When I was 17 I was promoted within one year of working as a life guard to the role of head guard. Victoria however, was way more punctual, clearly more responsible and a way better guard and instructor. Yet because she was shy, it took her 4 years to get the same promotion.

Could that be you?

Or maybe, you’ve already experienced the obvious consequences of lacking confidence and conviction in your communication skills. Candidly, I don’t know what the consequences will be for you. But I do know that Mr Branson and Mr Buffett are right. We can’t afford to be mediocre. If we’re going to be the best version of ourselves for our families and our communities, we need to master communication.

Now, for everyone that’s saying “I get it… I want to master communication!” Know that this series will deliver. Yes it’s about public speaking, but it’s about much, much, much more than that. Every lesson you learn here will be transferable to your everyday life. From speeches, to job interviews, to deal closing pitches, we’re always telling stories, informing and persuading. This series will prepare you to crush all of the high stakes situations of your life.

That my friends is why you.

Why me?

This is the real question.

Because it’s clear that you deserve everything that will come to you in abundance by becoming influential and persuasive. My intention is that after this post it is just as clear why I’m the right person to get you there.

Why me is because I dove into the public speaking world head first 18 months ago to become a student of this craft. I’ve been mentored and coached by some of Toronto’s and the worlds most talented and highly paid public speakers. Originally when I looked back, I thought that was the beginning of my journey. But when I peeled back the layers of the onion that is my story, I realized that it started much earlier.

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Grade 8 Public Speaking Award

In grade 7 and 8 I was winning both the class and school level for delivering speeches. When I started my business at 19 I was selling from stage in front of groups of 10, 100, and even thousands of people. I had been on podcasts and on several occasions I have both been on and facilitated panel discussions.

On stage at 19
On Stage At 19

But It wasn’t until 12 months ago that I realized why what I was doing was so effective. And that’s why in I will teach you to speak I’m going to break down everything that I’ve learned. I’m going to teach it in a way that is consumable, showing you why some people captivate their audiences, while others, lull their audience into checking their phones (you better not be scrolling through your phone right now).

Today, I’ve spoken to over 60 audiences. I’m a 2x public speaking champion, the president of CSI Pitchmasters and most important of all, I’m prepared to help you overcome your fears and silence your critics both internal and external.

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Addressing an audience about youth mental health at 22

Ultimately, I’m here to help you find your voice.

Till next time, stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight but you can change your direction.”

– J

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Perfect Perspective

In New York City a journalist was tasked with interviewing two men. One was a criminal. He abused drugs, was in and out of jail his whole life, and was cold stony broke. The other, quite the opposite. He was a wealthy man, loved by his entire community and had a beautiful family he cherished.

They only had one similarity, they were brothers.

When the newspaper owner heard about these two men, he had to understand immediately how two brothers, who grew up in the same home, with virtually identical genetics, could live such completely different lives.

So when the journalist finally sat down with the two brothers they began discussing their childhood. It turned out that their father was also a criminal. He was the cause of incredible pain throughout their home. He abused drugs, his wife, and his two sons. Rick, who was in the middle of serving time for armed robbery, blamed his father for setting a terrible example.

When asked, how did your life turn out this way? Rick replied,

“With a father like mine, how could it turn out any other way?”

David, who was being recognized as a Forbes entrepreneur of the year, told a very similar story about his father. He agreed that he did in fact set a terrible example.

When asked, how did your life turn out this way? David replied,

“With a father like mine, how could it turn out any other way?”

Two sons, with the same genetics, the same childhood, the same abusive father and the same answer went on to live completely different lives. One, repeating the blue print laid out by his father. The other, defying expectations by becoming the master, instead of the slave, to his circumstances.

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I hope that this example illustrates the significance of how the perspective we choose can impact our lives. Everyday we have the opportunity to choose the lens in which we see our world. We can decide to live life through a disempowering lens as a victim. Or, we can put our foot down, and decide that I am the master of my thoughts, feelings, and behaviours and no matter how bad my situation gets, it’s in my power to turn it around.

This post was inspired by all of the years I spent living through a disempowering lens. In High School, I felt like a victim to the hand I was dealt. As a result I didn’t handle life’s challenges with grace and fortitude. But it’s crystal clear to me now that everything I experienced was par for the course. Heartbreak, feeling uncomfortable, failure, disappointment, loss, sadness, and so much more is common. In fact, I now believe that it’s not only common, but necessary to live a full life.

My challenge is that our youth doesn’t yet see it that way. They, like me when I was their age, will make the same mistakes hoping that loss, heartbreak, and failure, is avoidable and other people should deal with it, not I.

That perspective doesn’t serve anybody. It doesn’t benefit the community, our families, and it especially does not serve the mental health of the individual themselves. Our perspective and in turn the lens we see life through has a tremendous impact on whether we feel like we’re healthy, stressed, struggling, or in a crisis.

For example, the student that sees his homework and tests as a challenge, is empowered to use the positive stress of his workload to get his assignments in on time. He’s driven by his deadlines to create a schedule that promotes healthy study habits, time for the gym and for his family and friends.

That’s not to say that he’ll never feel overwhelm or be disappointed in his grades, but it does mean that he’s willing to accept those emotions and outcomes as part of the process. His perspective is that the challenges that he faces in his life and in school are stretching him to grow. And based on my experience being and working with students, a focus on growth, is the perfect perspective to have.

On the other hand, we often see students who’s mental health suffer because of the lens in which they view their studies. Every quiz, test and assignment is a burden. They feel overwhelmed easily, succumb to stress and withdraw themselves from their educational experience. These individuals have a disempowering perspective on what it means to be a student and as a result experience downward momentum in their health.

I want to challenge our youth to avoid the mistakes that I’ve made in the past. To instead be like David from our story above. To see for themselves that difficulty, disappointment, and disaster are inevitable parts of life and that we should focus on the solution rather than the problem. These two shifts in perspective are a great place to start.

Problems vs. Challenges

One of the most disempowering, yet common, uses of language between adults and youth alike is the word “problems”. We need to wipe that word from our language patterns and replace is with the word “challenges”. Problems are disempowering and it overwhelms you. Rick from our example above, saw his upbringing as a problem. Problems are often out of your control and therefore he felt like a victim to his circumstances.

David on the other hand saw his situation as a challenge. Challenges are within your control to solve. Challenges you meet head on and you rise up to them and overcome them. Whatever stands in the way from you accomplishing your goal is not a problem, it’s a challenge that you’re ready to get after.

You are not the mistakes of your past

Our culture is obsessed with success. And as a result, our youth are often misguided and misinterpret what it means to “fail”. Today, we see mistakes, setbacks, and disappointments as catastrophe. For example, a student that is used to 90% on all their tests comes home with a 79%. Along with that 79% is a bruised ego and slash at their internal belief systems. That 79%, 60%, even 40% or less for that matter doesn’t represent failure, it represents opportunity. It’s a wake up call that I need to work harder, prioritize better, seek help and take better care of my health so I can be sharper. It took me far too long to recognize that my mistakes are not setbacks, they are truly the set ups for my future successes. Everything that happens to you, the good, the bad and the ugly, every experience, is an asset.

Rick believed that growing up in a broken home was a mistake. His father set a bad example and screwed him up. David however, is the perfect example of gleaning lessons from his past. His and Rick’s home were the same, but David’s perspective was shifted. Every mistake, setback, and disappointment his father represented, he used it as an example of what not to do.

So as you look at your own life as I have my own, and search within yourself for the beliefs and perspectives you hold, know that you are not the mistakes of your past, you are the resources and the capabilities you’ve gleaned from it. As soon as you make that shift in your life, anything bad that’s happened to you is ultimately your greatest asset.

My mental health made a dramatic shift when I made that choice consciously. I stopped seeing everything that happened to me as a problem, and instead a challenge testing my character. I stopped perpetuating my victim and disempowering mindsets and made the conscious decision to use my crisis with mental health as my greatest asset.

Now I can say without a doubt that I wouldn’t be half the man I am today if I didn’t experience depression and anxiety. I wouldn’t know how good it feels to be confident. I wouldn’t have the empathy and passion I now have to help other people. And most of all, I wouldn’t be able to type here today that I know with every fibre of my being there is no level, no matter how low, that you can’t come back from. That is of course, if you chose the perfect perspective.

Do This.

  1. In your everyday communication, replace the word problem with challenge. You will feel more in control and excited to tackle those challenges head on.
  2. Embrace your past. Use mistakes, setbacks, and disappointments as opportunities to learn rather than for reasons to dwell and feel bad. Take those lessons with you in your life and use them as your greatest advantage.

Ps. If supporting mental health is important to you, I’m currently raising money for Canada’s largest youth led summit on mental health. We need your support! Please donate here or share this link with someone who would like to support mental health in Canada.

Till next time, stay on the offensive. Aggressively pursue a better version of yourself. And remember what Jim Rohn said, “You cannot change the destination of your life overnight but you can change your direction.”

– J

Out.